WHEN YOU FIND A PARTNER, YOU LOSE LOVE.
WHEN YOU FIND LOVE, YOU FIND A PARTNER.
In life there are two kinds of people: the ones that are eternally satisfied, and they know it; and the ones that are eternally unsatisfied, and they don’t want to know. Therefore, they try to stay asleep as much as possible. They live on street and over‑the‑counter drugs or numb themselves with food, gossip, shopping, sex, and other forms of entertainment just to make life as shallow as possible in order not to “feel.” Then those who have the courage to face this black hole within are in a restless maze to find meaning, to find purpose, to find God.
The new NIV Bible in Ecclesiastes 1:2 says: “‘Meaningless! Meaningless!’ says the Teacher. ‘Utterly meaningless! Everything is meaningless.’”
So you seek, search, you go to church, you take Kabbalah, you read the Bible, you chant “Om” for hours, you immerse yourself in the Breath of Fire, you have amazing tantric sex, you meditate in a cave, and after a nice high and elevating your consciousness, you are actually becoming more and more eternally unsatisfied. In fact, the danger of increasing wisdom is to see more and more the meaninglessness of life.
Finally, you realize that what you are really seeking is love, and the only way to quench your spiritual thirst is with a love touch, a love gaze, a love whisper. Unfortunately, at this point, you enter into another maze, because there are different types of love. There is the ugly love of a chicken, and the divine love of an eagle.
You’re looking to find love in a mate. You dream to go yoga together, to eat together, to share everything together, and once it happens, you realize that you enter into a hellish cage, and you think, what have I done? Then you want to escape to a faraway country or as far from the opposite sex as possible. You were trapped in the love of a chicken, controlling everything, substituting your lover with your daddy or mommy, thinking that the other person could fill your own emptiness and fantasies. You were a beggar. You were not ready.
Eventually, after some time and thinking about becoming gay or lesbian because the same sex might understand you better, you keep journeying into your spiritual growth. If you allow it, a ray of light will touch your heart, and that love will grow wings so it can fly unattached, pure, candid, and open like the sky. This is the love of an eagle. This is the love of an emperor. This is true aliveness. This love will not be found in a mate, but it can be shared with a mate. There is no manipulation, retaliation, nor absurd jealousy, and it makes you feel that you can do the impossible. This is the love of the NUEVA ERA, the NEW MILLENNIUM.
The worldly archetypical stories of Majnun and Layla, Farhad and Shirin, Romeo and Juliet are overrated. They are beautiful and passionate, yet in a cage, attached, filled with drama, and they are there so that you can dream of something that is not lasting or real. The new couples are not in bondage. They are cage‑free. There are no walls around them. And, as Khalil Gibran says: “Fill each other’s cup, but drink not from one cup.”
Having a relationship is not a contract, it’s not a business, and there should be no lawyers involved, only lovers.
Come out of this fantasy of love. Get down on your knees. Lose everything. Lose your attachments, lose yourself, lose your possessions, and realize that when you lose everything, you are FREE TO LOVE, because, in that moment, you will be filled inside, and you can give and give, share and share, adore and adore…
Let those wings grow and catch flight. Realize your Majesty. Don’t settle for anything less than purity, divinity. Become one with your lover. Get absolutely crazy! Lose your fears, and give everything you have, because even if for some reason it doesn’t work, you will be left with your own full cup.
If you’re still in the chicken maze and you are jealous, or you blame the opposite sex, or you are in pain and heartbroken, or you compare yourself with others, or you stay in a shallow, unfulfilling relationship just not to be lonely, then this is a great opportunity to get down on your knees and lose everything you have and everything you are. In that moment, the ray of light will touch you, so when you touch, you will pass the same ray of light to another.
The new era love is the highest, the most pure, the most free.
My two cents of prophesy is that this year there will be new lovers with this new love. Some single people are learning to love themselves more and therefore are becoming more and more ready to start families and to love in an infinite way. Go for it, but first GET DOWN ON YOUR KNEES AND LOSE YOUR ATTACHMENTS. LOSE EVERYTHING.
When you find a partner, you lose love. When you find love, you will find a partner.
Alfonso
