HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF CRITICISM!

HOW TO OVERCOME THE FEAR OF CRITICISM!

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.”

 – Lao Tzu

 What other people think about you is one of the greatest fears in the world and therefore the greatest excuse for not moving forward in life.

I remember the time I had a photographer take a picture of me to advertise for my upcoming first seminar, the first thing that one of my friends said was  ” Alfonso you look like a cheap used car salesman ” and another friend said ” With that accent of yours nobody will take you seriously !”

I remember starting to doubt myself, I developed a strong fear and I was seriously thinking about quitting before I had even started….. but this was my life’s calling.

It took me a few days to recover from these words and my first event was a total disaster because of these people and what they had said had negatively affected my thinking.

However, I then realized that these very people were not my critics but my teachers, they taught me how to trust myself and that I had to really let go of my own worst critic:  “myself”

Since then I have been praised, insulted and criticized many times and I have learned to be immune to what other people think of me, to rise above the chickens and be like an eagle that fly’s high above a storm.

So what about you?

Are you putting your life on hold because of the fear of criticism?

Please don’t let this stop you from moving forward with your dreams.

Remember a few things:

• LOVE YOUR PARENTS BUT LET THEM GO.

Often criticism will affect you deeply if you have been heavily criticized by your parents as a child, those judgments can stay in your brain, mind, consciousness for the rest of your life, you must work to become your own man and woman, know that your parents did the best that they could and now you are a grown person and must rely on yourself and God.

• OTHER PEOPLE DON’T REALLY KNOW WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!

 It’s ok to listen to advice and learn from others especially the elders, but ultimately remember you and only you really know what is best for you. You are your own GURU.  Learn how to listen to your inner voice.

• LIFE IS WAY TOO SHORT! 

To spend your life worrying about what other people think about you is a waste of time, people will always have an opinion ( often negative ) about what you are doing, so you might as well get used to it and let it slide off your back….. Enjoy your own life instead.

• PEOPLE JUDGE YOU BUT DON’T REALLY CARE.

Most of the time when people judge you, is not about you, it’s about them! Nobody really cares about you, they only care about themselves so don’t take the judgments personally and simply send blessings toward those people.

• PEOPLE’S OPINION CHANGE FAST!

 8 years ago most Americans elected President Obama. People made an Idol of him, sculptures and paintings were made. Now many of the same people judge him and bash him continually. Get used to it, one day you are loved,  the day after you are hated by the same people, so why worry it’s just how life is.

• IT DOES NOT MATTER WHAT PEOPLE SAY ABOUT YOU, WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS THAT THEY TALK ABOUT YOU.

Advertisers know this. Negative advertising spreads fast and usually goes viral because people like to gossip. Eventually they will forget the topic and what they were gossiping about but they will never forget you.

 • BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR OWN VALUES.

 If deep inside you are aligned with your values and you know your own truth, nothing that anybody can say will ever shake you. Remember if God is with you it does not matter who is against you!